Howie

This is hypothesis and broad generalizations, main audience: Asian men Using this paper as a jumping off point:https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40806-018-0163-7 “Among the most frequent reasons that men indicated for being single included poor flirting skills, low self-confidence, poor looks, shyness, low effort, and bad experience from previous… Read More »Dating, Culture and Generational Trauma – How they could be intertwined

If you’ve been on social media, I’m guessing you’ve seen some instance or form of “Manifestation”, “Law of Attraction”, or “Visualization”.  You just need to BELIEVE hard enough and it will come true! Well, the problem with a lot of this short form media consumption… Read More »Breaking down “Manifestation” in modern culture (It’s not as woo woo as you might think)

In your life, I’m sure there are goals to be achieve, benchmarks to reach, checkboxes to tick off, etc. If every time you check off a box, and nothing changes in your nervous system regulation – you are in a vicious endless cycle. Examples: Being… Read More »Why Emotional Intelligence Matters, with a side of nervous system regulation

My latest addition to “Despised Words/Phrases”, joining ‘Authentic’, ‘When are you going to have kids?’:‘You are young/you have plenty of time” 1. I sincerely wish everybody has a long and healthy life, but that’s not true for everybody. 2. It implies that you know how… Read More »I can’t stand: “You are young/you have plenty of time”

This one is more fun and for me; keep reading for a bit of nerdy hypothesizing. Topic is epigenetics. I am piecing together various research as relevant to me and my story, as well as my business. One of the current struggles I have with… Read More »Are you affected by the events that happened in generations past?

When somebody tells you “I don’t care” or “I’m not interested” Do you feel some of the following:RejectedOffendedNot seen or heardNot worthyLike you did said or did something wrong When you say: “I don’t care” or “I’m not interested”Are you trying to make the person… Read More »“I don’t care”, or power of language

Particularly in Asian cultures, there is a strong sense of desire for certainty and external validation.  This is not said out loud, but there are many instances. Getting good grades (Certain, and measurable)Getting into good universities (Certain, and measurable)Getting well paying jobs in good companies… Read More »Duality of certainty and uncertainty.

Imagine you achieved all the goals you set out for yourself. Right now. All check boxes complete.Its an unnatural feeling! Because it involves:Were you taught to appreciate the moment, or always chase the next thing (Continue the cycle).Is your “normal” full of moving goal posts?Did… Read More »Achieving your goals can be intense and overwhelming (And that’s ok).

Listening to the linked episode of ChooseFI, and man did it resonate with my old days in corporate, and many of my clients. I highly encourage those stuck in the hustle and grind to listen in, as well those who feel like cogs in the… Read More »Escapism: Are you working really hard, so that you can get away from your day to day lifestyle?

Delineating the difference between the two can make a difference between getting what you want, and not. So, what is the difference?  Courageous exists on a spectrum.  Sometimes you are feeling like you can take the world, some times you feel like it’s time to… Read More »Courageous is a feeling.  Courage is an action.