First off: I think it’s a loaded question that misses the crux of the relationship, and what relationships are about. Splitting it into to main parts – How long? Some couples know after a month. Some take a few years. All are valid. So… Read More »Opinion piece: How long does it take to be sure that you’re with “the one”
The sooner you internalize this idea, the sooner you you get to reap the benefits. Happy (Recent) Lunar New Year! I figured this would be as a tie to write about the topic of money, after many of us in the world received money (In… Read More »Money is absolutely an emotional topic.
Many of your “negative” feelings such as fear are your body’s way of trying to protect you from danger. There are innate ones, experienced ones, and learned one. Most of the time, these feelings make sense and serve you. Such as, I don’t need… Read More »Courage is context specific. (Aka it depends on your perspective lens).
This has been a question that’s been asked several times, and I’m not surprised; it ties in strongly with the blog I just wrote about being anxious. There’s the duality of people who want to be something they are not currently, as well as the… Read More »How do be/feel Smart, Confident, Sexy, [Anything] (Subtext: How you might be putting your feelings on backwards)
A couple of attributions to this that I make: Continuous cycles of unhealed trauma and scarcity mindsets (There are just more and more people)More “friendly” tools that fuel COMPARISON. (Comparison is the thief of joy). Internet. Facebook. WeChat and WhatsApp. Glassdoor. Reddit. Zocdoc. Google Reviews.… Read More »We are one hell of an anxious generation.
Writing this while I am literally eating a New York strip steak. Unpopular opinion: We Asians / Asian Americans don’t have exactly the best relationship with food. I also acknowledge this isn’t limited to our culture; I am writing this piece as somebody who is… Read More »Transforming Pride and Gluttony into Gratitude
Not exclusively limited to Asians / Asian Americans, but there is definitely a strong theme of “Gotta be perfect”. Perfect grades, perfect jobs, perfect appearances, etc. Just MAYBE you can keep this up for moments, but the reality is that it can’t be kept up… Read More »Embracing Mistakes (Alternatively – how perfectionism harms your relationship).
Happy New Year! The context of this writing could apply to any person or relationship in your life; I’m going to be writing in the context of romantic relationships. Scene: You’re having disagreement about [something]. Could be big, could be little. What matters is that… Read More »Dealing with your partner when it’s difficult.
Short Version: It’s very hard to feel romantically and sexually attracted to your partner. If you’re the one doing the parenting, it may feel like you’re doing the mental labor for 2 people. If you’re the one being treated like a child, the uneven power… Read More »Why “Parenting” your partner generally doesn’t work out well. Unless you’ve clearly communicated that you’re ok with it, or just into that
Framed in the context for relationships, but applies to most if not all areas of your life. Short Version: Certainly pain is not nice, but pain is a part of life and relationships, and in fact it is a part of the balance of magnifying… Read More »Why it’s important to feel THROUGH your feelings instead of avoiding. (Avoiding situations, avoiding conflict, avoiding processing)