Not exclusively limited to Asians / Asian Americans, but there is definitely a strong theme of “Gotta be perfect”. Perfect grades, perfect jobs, perfect appearances, etc. Just MAYBE you can keep this up for moments, but the reality is that it can’t be kept up… Read More »Embracing Mistakes (Alternatively – how perfectionism harms your relationship).
Happy New Year! The context of this writing could apply to any person or relationship in your life; I’m going to be writing in the context of romantic relationships. Scene: You’re having disagreement about [something]. Could be big, could be little. What matters is that… Read More »Dealing with your partner when it’s difficult.
Short Version: It’s very hard to feel romantically and sexually attracted to your partner. If you’re the one doing the parenting, it may feel like you’re doing the mental labor for 2 people. If you’re the one being treated like a child, the uneven power… Read More »Why “Parenting” your partner generally doesn’t work out well. Unless you’ve clearly communicated that you’re ok with it, or just into that
This is not meant to be an end all/be all reasoning that applies to everybody, but I have found these to be common themes in my community and my clients. Particularly in our American society, we place so much value on “Independence”. I can do… Read More »Why asking for support or help is a sore topic (And how it relates to your feelings and emotional intelligence)