Are you: Somebody who has a good sense of self, and has enough capacity to serve and take care of your needs and desires, and some extra to pour into other’s cups?
Are you: Somebody who has a poor sense of self, neglects and self minimizes your own needs and desires, and sacrifices your self in order to serve other’s needs; especially if you’re told this makes you more “likable” or “desirable” or a “better child”?